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WHAT IF?   Leave a comment

WHAT IF?

This was actually written a couple years ago — just wanted to share it again!

I imagine myself visiting my future self in a few years from now. How about going to the big date 20/12/2012, that so much talk is about, and looking back at January of 2008.

Being here in 2012 I am deeply grateful for the past 5 years that have been beyond my wildest imagination. Yeah, we had those dreams to turn around that freight train that was racing towards a huge cliff and a lot of us were really convinced that we could do it. What transpired was just absolutely amazing, when 2008 hit and all of a sudden a mass rising in consciousness happened. It was almost overnight. I had read about it years ago in the Tipping Point that that is how change happens, and still – it was absolutely beyond anything I could have imagined. Out of nowhere the energy started to feel different, people started to behave in new ways, international conflicts were solved, peace treaties that nobody expected were signed and the old system naturally accepted necessary reforms that served everybody. To this day scientists and economists are still figuring out all the key components to how such a massive global transformation could have happened. I know that beyond all the scientific data there is a very simple explanation for that amazing transformation humanity went through in the past 5 years. It’s just part of our natural evolution to raise our level of consciousness.

All the drama we went through was part of compelling us to take it to the next level. We were exactly like a three-year old who is growing out of throwing temper tantrums. I am deeply grateful to the people who held the vision, when it was just one of many possible outcomes. As I come back to January of 2008, I know that this is a very REAL possible future and already exists in the universe. I am committed to align all of my actions this year with this vision.

Christiane

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Posted July 29, 2010 by quantumnlp in Tipping Point

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Building your own business with the Law of Attraction   Leave a comment

When I started my company Quantum NLP LLC a few years ago,I had no clue about using the Law of Attraction specifically in building my business. I had heard about the Law of Attraction and used it in my personal life for little things like attracting the good parking spot or that the friend I was just thinking about would call me. I would even do little games like asking the universe to arrange all the traffic lights on my way to downtown so they would be all green. Sometimes that even worked.

Then, I started to understand the magnificent implications of using the Law of Attraction as an ongoing way of thinking and living, not just a haphazard “here and there kind of approach”. THE SECRET beautifully brought home the idea that we can have anything anytime, no matter how big or impossible our wish might seem. I now know deeply that anything any of us could ever dream of is possible. Just by dreaming it we put that energy into the collective consciousness and thereby raise the vibration. Taking all of that magnificence and applying it to building my business has been the best decision I could have ever made as an entrepreneur and business owner.

By taking the principles of the Law of Attraction and integrating them into my business strategy and everyday administration and marketing, I have increased the profitability of my business manifold while working a lot less then I before. As I am learning the principles and apply them in different ways I am having great learning experiences to what works. Some of these principles include the idea, that instead of imagining myself to go out there into the world and do and create and achieve (which is the more masculine approach, when we look at it from a ying/yang perspective), I also honor the feminine attraction principles, where I stand still and let the perfect people, resources, contracts and money come to me.

Do this as a visualization and imagine everything you desire to just come to you. It’s a great way to activate other parts of the brain in our attraction efforts. Also, I like to use positive affirmations. Here the key is to get into that space of gratefulness and love first, then put your intent out to the universe.

By starting to use these two basic and easy principles, magic will happen for you quickly in your business. Be deliberate and do this frequently as the consistent activity will help your brain create the neurology to support the behaviors you want.

I wish you great success in using the Law of Attraction in your business,

Christiane Turner

Author of “Quantum NLP – Thought into Manifestation” International NLP Trainer

Posted July 27, 2010 by quantumnlp in Quantum NLP

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Remembering Names Made Easy   Leave a comment

“Did you know ? …”

… that we process information through our sensory systems, primarily through seeing, hearing and feeling.

Use this concept to remember names better:

Seeing: As someone tells you their name, visualize the name on their forehead or like a name tag. Hearing: Repeat the name back to them or hear it inside your head a few times.
Feeling: The kinesthetic sense gets acknowledged by shaking the person’s hand or writing their name in the air with your finger.

By doing these three steps, you impregnate that person’s name and face in your brain. It makes it much easier to access their name the next time you see that person or speak to them.

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Posted July 23, 2010 by quantumnlp in Quantum NLP

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Change is Easier than You Think   Leave a comment

There is a famous quote that change is the only consistency in life. It’s a natural part of life and just think for a moment about the many changes you already have been through in your own life. Moving to a new house or city, visiting different schools during your eduction, getting in and out of relationships, marrying, having children, and much, much more. Just alone in your career path I can imagine how many changes you have had. Life is full of changes and you have gone through changes many times successfully.

Essentially, change is quite easy. It just depends on three factors: First of all: That you really want the change. Second: That you give yourself a chance to change. And last: That you know how to change.

To give you an idea: Imagine someone – a person who drives to work the same route every day – and who has a specific neuro network in their brain supporting their way of driving to work, going one specific route to work every day. Essentially in their brain this is a deeply rooted network of neurons connecting with each other, and they have a longterm relationship with each other. Now imagine, that same person would drive to work a different route to work at least once a month!

The amazing thing is that research has shown: every time someone makes a change by reestablishing for example an aspect of their life, or a belief or even their identity, the neurology in their brain automatically changes as well also. Old longterm neuro connections are being severed and new ones are being established. This is a very encouraging fact when thinking of integrating change into our lives and how actually easy it is to have the change be effective and lasting.

Alright, back to our friend on the way to work. Just by driving a new way to work once a month this person now has a new neuro connection in their brain and by practicing that new way more often and even finding other routes to work their brain literally becomes more complex, more neurons fire with each other which means they wire with each other. And this in the end effect means: more resources, more choices.

So, when you think about that – what that means for you and your own life. You can break old patterns, habits, ways of thinking, things that don’t work for you and that you are ready to let go off. Isn’t that great?! Just by practicing a new way of doing something, like driving to work a new way or brushing your teeth differently than usual. – You know what I mean, we all have our ways of doing things. – There are so many things we always do the same way, like tying our shoe laces, or how we react when we are being criticized, how we prepare a meal, or how we go to sleep. These are deeply ingrained patterns and habits.

As a little personal exploration, just fold your arms in front of your chest in the way you usually fold your arms. Most people on this planet fold their arms the same way every time. There is either the right hand on top or the left hand. They won’t switch, like one day they got the right hand on top and the next day the left hand, that’s not how it works with habits. The point of a habit is to do it the same way every time. So now, just change the position of your arms, lets say you usually have your right hand on top and the left one folded under. Now, change it around, fold your right hand under and have your left hand rest on top. Doesn’t that feel weird. That’s because you are so used to doing it one way only. And that is what we consider a deeply ingrained habit.

And just by consciously doing these things differently once in a while or as often as we choose we are opening up the window of possibility, our brain gets more resources and choices and we get to live a more enriched and empowered life. So the key is, start practicing new behaviors and thought patterns and change will naturally occur as the new way of doing something becomes integrated into your brain.

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Posted July 22, 2010 by quantumnlp in Quantum NLP

Manifest your Dreams through effective Goal setting   Leave a comment

For over thirty years Neuro Linguistic Programming, also called NLP, has developed many processes and techniques to help people achieve excellence. All of our patterns and habits are anchored in our neurology and our language patterns reflect what is going on in our brain. For example a person who says: “I am trying to lose weight.” is actually setting themselves up for failure by HOW they are talking about their outcome. A much more positive and useful way of expressing that outcome might be something like: “I am currently achieving my perfect weight.” These little differences in how we express ourselves have huge effects when it comes to the reality we are creating.

Quantum Physics shows us clearly that we are creating our own reality. And Quantum NLP suggests that this happens through the use of our thoughts. You can also say that we become what we think. Now, the interesting fact is that a lot of people believe that they are stuck with their habits, their patterns, their limiting beliefs and whatever else they carry around with them. Quantum NLP has taught me that we can change our thought patterns, which will automatically lead to different behaviors, better habits and more empowering beliefs. I have observed it over and over again with myself, my family, my friends, my clients and students and my audiences: That we can absolutely change an aspect of our life in a meaningful manner to a new way that is holistic and lasting.
Quantum NLP is based on a very simple and at the same time profound idea. “We are all responsible for creating our own reality.” And this happens through the use of our thoughts.
My intent is to help you identify your thought patterns that create incongruence in your life. When we are not congruent and aligned, things show up, that we don’t really want, like relationships that don’t work, money issues, having an accident or getting sick.
All of these issues and problems are the direct result of people’s internal thought patterns. When I work with my clients I help them to identify their thought patterns and then we can figure out ways to replace those with more useful ones. And the beautiful thing is, it is already all available in their neurology. I love the idea that we already have all the resources and answers we need within us. It is just a matter of practicing the muscle. Just like when someone starts going to the gym, the exercises that seem so hard in the beginning are becoming easy so quickly because the muscle gets used to the workout. It is exactly the same with the neurology in your brain.
There is a famous quote that change is the only consistent in life. It is a natural part of life. Just think for a moment about the many changes you already have been through in your own life. Moving to a new house or city, visiting different schools during your education, getting in and out of relationships, marrying, having children, and much, much more. Just alone in your career path I can imagine how many changes you have had. Life is full of changes and you have gone through changes many times successfully.
Essentially, change is quite easy. It just depends on three factors:
First of all: That you really want the change.
Second: That you give yourself a chance to change.
And last: That you know how to change.
By you picking up this book I already know: first of all, that you are willing to change and secondly, that you are giving yourself a chance to change. The information I am sharing with you about the structure of change and the process I will lead you through are giving you the “Know How”, also known as the “strategy” to change.
It definitely helps to know your starting point and what it is you really want. Just like a car that is traveling from point A to point B, you need to have your point A and point B in place in order to plan a path to get to your goal.
Now it is almost time for you to fully experience in your own neurology the actual transformation of a dream into an achievable goal. We will do this by integrating the structure of effective goal setting into your neurology. Your brain always makes the best choice possible with the options and resources it has available. So when an innovative and different possibility is being offered, the brain loves the opportunity to explore new neuro pathways and with practice these pathways will become long term neuro connections. Having this new network in your brain naturally leads to integrating more empowering beliefs, behaviors and patterns.

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The Importance of Specific Goal Setting   Leave a comment

Whenever we set a goal we want to make sure that it’s done in a very specific manner. The brain loves detailed directions. It’s just like when you ask someone for the way to the airport and imagine they tell you something like: “Oh, just go west til you hit it.” How satisfying of an answer would that be to you? Would you like more to hear something like: “From here just follow the street you are on until you hit the highway, go west on the highway and after about 5 miles you will see the airport to your right, follow the signs to the terminal.” Could you assume that the second description would guarantee you much greater success? I sure think so. And that’s exactly how it is with the brain. By being really specific we are so much more apt to get what we really want. Imagine the person who wants to weigh 140 pounds would say: “I just want to loose a bunch of pounds”, how guaranteed is it for them to actually end up at 140 pounds? By saying: “I want to weigh 140 pounds” the person has an achievable and measurable goal.

Make sure that your outcome is measurable. A goal like: “I want to make more money this year” is so vague and does not really give the brain a definite direction. By saying: “This year I am going to double my net income” or even better: “This year I am going to have $ 100.000 net income” we give the brain a clear and distinct goal to focus on.
I remember learning this lesson the hard way. I had been wanting a new car for a while and kept saying things like: “I just want a new car.” My wish came true when we had to evict one of our tenants and they abandoned a beat up car (with a beehive in it) in our parking lot. Was that the car I wanted? My husband is still laughing about that and sometimes when I am being too vague with my language he teases me: “Is that the car you want?” So, you better make sure that you specify exactly what you want.

Besides your outcome being measurable also make sure it’s achievable. Notice that it is the appropriate chunk size for you to deal with. “I want to be healthy” is too general and vague, it is too large of a chunk to bite off at once. Think of all the many little chunks that make up the larger one. With the example of health, some of the smaller pieces that make up general health are diet, exercise, sleeping patterns, meditation, etc. By concentrating on just one aspect at a time you give your brain a lot greater chance to integrate that one pattern before moving on to the next. That is how we create lasting change. Lets go back to our friend wanting to start their own business. That’s one huge chunk they are biting off right there. What could be some smaller goals that will naturally lead to fulfilling their dream of owning a business. Do they need education, funding, or a business plan. What is the greatest priority? What makes sense to do first. For example it does make sense to have the business plan first to then be able to create the budget.

Think of your own outcome now. Is it defined enough for you to be sure of your next steps?
All right.
Excellent.

State your outcome in positive towards to terms, “I want to be calm when my kids whine” versus “I don’t want to be aggressive anymore when my kids whine”, because to the brain there is no such thing as a negation. The brain takes all concepts literally and all it hears is “I want to be aggressive when my kids whine.” Again, any time when we say what we don’t want we actually tell our brain that we do want it. Just like “I don’t want to smoke”, the brain only hears “I want to smoke”. Even “I want to stop smoking” needs still a little fine tuning, because at this point the brain only knows what we want to stop doing, it does not know yet what we want to do instead. Sometimes that’s a little tough to find the positive towards to language to describe what it is we want. And, it is so important that we take that step, because remember, the brain needs specific directions to take you where you want to go. When I work with people who want to change their smoking habits I encourage them to think on the lines of “I am finding many ways of expressing my freedom” or “I am easily relaxing and breathing deeply”. Use creative ongoing present tense language like “I am creating, I am achieving, I am attracting …”. This puts your outcome in motion right now.

If your outcome includes other people make sure that you are in charge of your outcome. “I want my kids to behave” or “I want my boss to respect me” are statements that put our power in other people’s hands. People who are stuck with such outcomes have a tougher time changing themselves because they believe it’s up to the other person to make the change. Ask yourself: “What can I do to change the situation?” “How can I communicate with my kids in a way that they want to behave?” or “How can I respect myself more that it automatically reflects in my boss’s behavior towards me?” By bringing the outcome back to yourself you are claiming your own power to change. And by you changing, the environment around you automatically changes too.

I once worked with a man, lets call him John, who could not stand his in laws because of their frequent visits to his and his wife’s home. He desperately wanted them to change and he could not see his own part in the story. Once we started thinking about what goal John could set for himself in regards to this situation, he decided to be very warm and welcoming to his in laws and still maintain appropriate boundaries. It’s needless to say that the parental visits became less frequent. A huge insight helped John to make peace with his in laws and it came when we were exploring the in laws positive intent for their behavior. John started to understand that their frequent visits were a sign of their love and support for their daughter and her husband. I remember John’s smile when the realization hit him and a wave of love for his in laws came over him.

All right now, we already took some great steps in the direction of the fulfillment of your outcome. So, in summary:

Notice where you are at, what situation you want to change.
What is your positive intent for what you currently have.
What do you want instead.
Make sure your outcome is measurable and achievable, that it’s the appropriate chunk size.
Use positive, towards to language when stating your outcome.
Make sure the outcome is something you can do, even if it includes other people.www.quantumnlp.net

Positive Intent   Leave a comment

There is a very important principle, called the “Positive Intent“. Positive Intent means, that there is always a positive function or purpose for what is currently happening in our lives. For example a behavior we don’t like about ourselves, like getting angry when our kid whines, or getting all shy when walking into a room full of people, or having dyslexia or any kind of habit or pattern that doesn’t work for us. There is always a positive reason for us having that in our lives. On a higher level this behavior, habit or way of being serves us. What do you suppose smoking cigarettes might do for people on a higher level? When I ask clients that question I hear answers like: “Smoking helps me to relax and take a deep breath”. Or another person said: “Then I’m free for a moment”. So, essentially the positive intent of that person is to be free. How interesting. The behavior of smoking actually gives them a feeling of freedom. That’s their positive intent for their behavior. Does that make sense? It’s such an interesting concept and completely changes your way of looking at the world and yourself when you start asking yourself what the positive intent could be of your behaviors and patterns. To tie this back into our examples. First, the person who wants to go from 160 to 140 pounds. I would ask them what their positive intent is for their current weight of 160 pounds. How does it serve them to have exactly that weight right now. An answer might be: “I feel safer.” This answer puts their weight into a completely different perspective and it makes sense why they would have those extra 20 pounds. Because they feel safer.And lets check out our second example, the person who wants to start their own business. When I ask them “What does it do for you to be employed right now?” they would probably tell me: “It gives me stability because I can depend on my paycheck.” This is such an important consideration for that person as they think about starting their own business, that their positive intent for their current situation is a matter of stability and dependability on their paycheck. These are parts we need to honor as we move forward with our goals. The part that says “I want you to be safe” or the part that says “I want you to be stable and have a dependable paycheck” or whatever positive intent our parts are holding for us. This is so important to understand. Because the positive intent is what holds the current situation in place. Remember, for example the person who is smoking cigarettes. Their part that smokes cigarettes is just attempting to get the person a feeling of freedom. I once worked with a woman who would get verbally aggressive whenever her kids did not listen to her. When we explored her positive intent for her negative reaction she realized that being aggressive was a way for her to be in control. And when we further explored what it did for her on an even higher level to be in control, she actually came up with peace. So being aggressive was her way of attaining peace. Isn’t that amazing? I have done this so many times with people that I would ask them about their positive intent and their answers are always surprising to what the part that creates the behavior really wants for the person.Now the question is, what is your positive intent for what you currently have in your life. How does it serve you and your life right now. No matter if it’s a health issue, a dysfunctional relationship, money issues or just plain depression, there has to be a positive function for what is going on right now.

Ask yourself, get in touch with your parts, trust the answers that come up. Take a nice deep breath and ask yourself. “What is the positive intent of my current situation?” “How does my current situation serve me on a higher level right now?” Just take your time and trust any thoughts that come to your conscious awareness. What answers are you hearing in your head? What pictures are you seeing with your internal eyes?Thank your parts for any answers you are receiving.Sometimes, when people are starting to play with the principle of the Positive Intent it is harder to get answers right away. That is because we are so conditioned to the other way of thinking and beating ourselves up. Trust me, you will get used to asking yourself what the positive intent is for what is happening. Just relax and trust.
By you asking these questions your brain is learning the structure and it will become easier every time you do it.By knowing the positive intent of your current situation you are more able to tap into the resources of love and compassion for yourself and others, it makes it so much easier to understand why you are doing what you are doing, which opens the door for change.
Again, thank your parts for communicating with you.

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